Fisting sounds like it’s one of the most intense things imaginable in the bedroom. It sounds like something that only pornstars can do. It sounds and looks very intimidating, but so does skydiving, and everyone can do that!
Another parallel with skydiving is that you still have to start as a beginner and work your way up to doing the diving by yourself.
The way you start as a beginner at fisting is quite simple; you start off small. If you use sex toys then start with a slim dildo and work your way up. The better option is to simply start with one finger, and work your way up to the entire fist. You will be surprised at how fast you can advance up an extra finger.
Once you have past the point of a couple of fingers and are ready to try and insert your hand, that is when you need to perfect the hand/finger position.
You need to bring your pinky and thumb together under your palm, just like you’re trying to make a snake shadow puppet. This turns your hand into an arrow shape, and will make it much more comfortable for your partner.
There are a lot of nerve endings in the vagina, but not too many of them can feel gentle sensations. This is why a lot of women love the feeling of being “filled up”, which comes from the stimulation of the nerve endings with a greater pressure, like a large toy or a fist. For this reason, your partner may feel intimated at first, but will quickly become entranced by the pleasure.
Try to remember that this for your partners pleasure, so follow their lead. Go as hard or soft as they request. Fisting isn’t about being extreme, it’s only about extreme pleasure.
Fisting isn’t just for the ladies, either. There are a lot of nerve endings in the male anus, as well as the very sensitive prostate gland. Check out the image below to discover just how flexible skin can be.