It is a traditionally held belief that women will only try anal sex twice, once to see what it is like and a second time to see if it was really as bad as the first time. This is something you either love or hate. My first experience at anal sex – I loved, but we are not all made of the same stuff. I didn’t even think to use lube as this was a spur of the moment thing, but the suggestion is that anyone doing anal sex at any time, should use lube.
Although I only ever had anal sex with my ex-husband – for me this is a very personal experience. Not for lack of being asked however, really just from shyness.
Not for the lack of anyone asking me, I have had a couple of boyfriends who have wanted to delve into the darkest area of my nether regions. Quite simply because I have said no, but life isn’t over when anal sex is over, just as life isn’t over if you don’t have sex. I have weird ideas about my pooper being my business and no-one else’s.
In retrospect, both the past partners who wanted to try sexual advances on my posterior, also happened to have rather large cocks – I have a taste for men with big cocks. Thinking about my ex-husband rather s mall member did not inspire me to say yes. So there is definitely and element of the chicken" in me; many people fall prey to this fear factor.
There is not one thing with being afraid to have any kind of sex that makes you feel uncomfortable, and there is nothing wrong with saying no; just as there is absolutely nothing wrong with having anal sex althoug a little practise with an I Plug may improve your experience. The only wrong thing is when someone forces or tries to coerce you into doing something you don’t want to do. Some people fit sexually together, others don’t and this is a fact of life, rather say no and don’t risk fitting a square peg into a round hole.